Still exhausted today, and it didn't help that a friend who I thought was dropping by for a brief visit stayed for over 90 minutes.
I've been pretty straightforward with folks that an hour is about all I can handle socializing with a visitor. Even if I don't talk much, just the extra activity level around me wears me out.
A friend came over today. She had done me a favor and hit the sale at the nearby Hanna Andersson outlet and got me a dress for Ellie at a good price. So she came over with her daughter, who's a few months younger than Ellie, and her 3-month-old baby, who I hadn't met yet.
Don't get me wrong -- it was good to see her, good to see her kids and I was grateful for the cute dress she found in Ellie's size. But she was an hour late showing up (which is understandable with a newborn and a preschooler to corral to get out of the house with) and then we felt funny about making lunch when she and her older child didn't want any, so we didn't eat either even though it was now past our normal lunch time.
I was still worn out from Thanksgiving, and I guess I wasn't really up for a playdate and that's probably the real problem. But as they lingered and lingered, I could tell Scott was hungry too and Ellie was fading fast.
I finally dropped a hint by saying that gosh, it was really getting close to my naptime. And they eventually left, we had our lunch, and then I headed upstairs for a nap.
I know I should have said something sooner, but I didn't know what to say or how to say it politely. She's someone I like, but we don't know each other all that well and I didn't feel like I could just say, "Hey, I've reached my limit, it's time for you to pack up your kids and go." And I probably should have.
Does Miss Manners explain the proper etiquette for these kinds of situations?
4 months ago